A Young Woman Gone Too Soon

 

Tasman McKay Grout

 Free Bird

Tasman McKay Grout was born October 8, 1993 with fierce love and wild light coursing through her veins.
She grew up in Lawrence, Kansas, attended Lawrence public schools and graduated from Grinnell College in 2016 with a Bachelor’s in Anthropology and Spanish.
An avid traveler, she visited more than 30 countries (her mom lost count) and had friends from all over the world.
As a match specialist with Big Brothers/Big Sisters, she worked with the Spanish-speaking families of Douglas County.
She died unexpectedly on October 15, 2018, one week after her 25th birthday, of a ruptured aneurism.
She is survived by her pets, Izzie and Trivia, her mom Pam Grout (Lawrence) and her three dads, Robin Murray Woodsford (Christchurch, New Zealand), Ronnie Quaso Questo DeWitt (Overland Park, Kansas) and James Dick (Lawrence). She has eight sisters: Rachael, Elisabeth, Rebekah, Hannah (Lawrence), Jenny (Overland Park), Kayla (Austin, Texas), Meredith and Angela (Christchurch, New Zealand) and one brother Finnzabby Woodrich (Christchurch, New Zealand.)
A 222 Foundation with a yearly $10,000 grant to a creative project for bettering the world is being established in her honor. Memorial contributions can be sent directly to The 222 Foundation c/o DCCF, 900 Massachusetts, #406, Lawrence, KS 66044.

Her kind spirit, unwavering goodness and generous and indiscriminate love will be missed by all.

My magical Taz: snapshots of a life of incomparable goodness, grace and gusto




I follow Pam Grout on Facebook .... today she shared a message about her
daughter.... You can read it at this link.
I then went and looked up her obituary, which I have shared above.
I was PROFOUNDLY affected by this line describing 'Taz'....

"Her kind spirit, unwavering goodness and generous and
indiscriminate love will be missed by all."

THIS IS EXACTLY the way I wish to be remembered... one day.


https://pamgrout.com/2020/02/22/222-forever-celebrating-taz-with-3-new-projects/

When She Is Gone, You Will Realize Your Mom Was Your One True Friend

By Gerald Sinclair  - February 7, 2020
While a lot of people say that as parents we shouldn’t be friends with our children, it is something that happens no matter what. If you have a positive relationship with your mother, she will become your best friend whether it’s when you’re young or years later when you’re finally an adult.
Sure, you might not see it right now and it might not be something you realize within the next few years even but once you lose your mom you will begin to come to terms with how much she truly was your best friend and so much more. The relationship I have with my mom is easily the most important one in my life and that might sound a bit weird to some but if you have a positive connection with your mom, you know exactly what I am talking about.
As I have gotten older we have become closer and closer. The things I used to be afraid to talk to her about are now things we share words over easily. We are both open and honest with one another and really care about each other on a level that no one else could really compare to. I have realized through a lot of thinking that when I was younger I had been a complete trouble maker for her and also have taken the time to apologize for that.
She is the one person I know now that I can call in the middle of the night if I truly need her. She loves me unconditionally and I love her unconditionally. I have kept her up at night without realizing it and she has always worried about me in ways other people never will. My mom is a great best friend and I would not trade her for the world.
You will realize just how important she is when she is finally gone and by that time it will be too late so please do your best to understand the relationship you have with the woman who brought you into this world. She is the person who helped to make you who you are right now, she has cared for you through the ups and downs life has placed before her and even when she was struggling she make time to play with you and do her best to bring a smile to your face.
She was there when you went through breakups, she was there when you fell off your bike, and if you ever needed her for anything she would only be just a call away. She wants the best for you and works hard to see that you even now are able to live a good life. If you are struggling she will always come through the help in any way she can and she deserves some acknowledgment.
Your mother is the one person that should be deemed your best friend above everyone else. She isn’t some bratty girl from down the road or a co-worker who is going to leave you hanging when you need them the most. She is the person who has stood by you when you were treating her badly and made sure you still had all you needed in life. She might not be the same woman she used to be now that you’re older and she’s getting up there in age but she will continue to love you completely until the day she takes her last breath and even into the afterlife.

Quote from Glad 1

Quote from Glad #1 

After a long time in a nursing home, 
her mom passed.

"Now I know and feel that she's glad to be dead,
and I'm glad that she lived. 
Her Spirit communicates her gladness to me"

Glad No Matter What, 

Transforming loss and change into gifts and opportunity. 

published Nov 2010 - by SARK ~ (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy)

From Amazon...

Though SARK has empowered millions to live their creative dreams, manage their businesses, and savor personal connections, the deaths of her mother and cat and the end of a treasured relationship tested her ability to walk her talk. But as Glad No Matter What shows, she journeyed through the spirals and layers of grief and loss and emerged stronger and more whole. In this inspiring book, she shares the insights she found along the way — practical strategies we can all use to cultivate profound, positive transformation through, rather than despite, life’s inevitable travails.

I've Got Brilliance to Create

Picked up this book... Art & Soul Reloaded,
A year long apprenticeship for summoning the muses and
reclaiming your bold, audacious, creative side. 
by Pam Grout.  

 I SURE as hell need a kick in the pants from 'the muses' !!!   AND I can hear you Nicole Agnes... IF I had your talent I would be DOING something with it. !!!

~ Sunday - January 12, 2020 ~

Quote on Death

When it comes time to die, be not like those whose
hearts are filled with the fear of death, so when their
time comes they weep and pray for a little more time
to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing
your death song, and die like a hero going home.

Chief Aupumut, (Mohican. 1725)