Saturday, December 22, 2007

Spread The Love Now ! ~ Group Writing Project

Hey, That Rings A Bell









I believe that compassion is an inherent human quality tied to our



heart strings.   The pull of those heart strings rings a bell of sorts within



a human.   The pull of the heart string reverberates through our being and



triggers our consciousness into an emotional reaction.    







Bells are everywhere and they are certainly prominent at Christmas time.



The Salvation Army rings bells to inspire passers by to place donations of cash



inside red kettles.   In my ignorance, I assumed The Salvation Army was only



an American organization.   I’ve now learned it’s origin was in England in 1865 and



today The Salvation Army has offices in 131 countries.   





The movie, It’s a Wonderful Life is an exceptional movie showing the compassion



and caring of a community.    In the final scene, George Bailey is holding his young



daughter beside their Christmas tree……  A tiny bell on the tree magically rings by itself.



The daughter says….  Teacher says, every time a bell rings, an Angel gets his wings.”





It's a Wonderful Life is a 1946 American film produced and directed by Frank Capra and based on the short story "The Greatest Gift" written by Philip Van Doren Stern.





The film takes place in the fictional town of Bedford Falls shortly after World War II and stars James Stewart as George Bailey, a man whose attempted suicide on Christmas Eve gains the attention of his guardian angel, Clarence Odbody (Henry Travers) who is sent to help him in his hour of need. Most of the film is told through flashbacks spanning George's entire life and narrated by Franklin and Joseph, unseen Angels who are preparing Clarence for his mission to save George. Through these flashbacks we see all the people whose lives have been touched by George and the difference he has made to the community in which he lives. (Wikipedia)





In by gone days, church bells were rung for many occasions.   One reason for the ringing of church bells was to spread the news of the recent death.    One of my very favorite quotations is from John Donne a Jacobean metaphysical poet.   
In 1624 he wrote Devotions Upon Emergent Occasions.





Meditation 17 - (In modern word usage)





“No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friends or of thine own were; any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.”





His words speak to me of how we are all intrinsically tied to one another through our humanity. 



We are asked to have compassion for this person and their passing, whether or not we knew them.





In ending, let me tell you exactly how I know that compassion is inherent human quality.   





Step back in time with me to my ‘other life’.    ‘My other life’ are the words I use to describe my



first marriage.   The year was 1983 and my husband Mark and I had been married for 5 years and we lived in a town less than 10 miles from his Nonna (Grandmother) and his Aunt Edna.   



Auntie Edna was a single lady who had never married.   Edna lived with Nonna and worked a full time job.



Nonna was a quiet, shy sort of woman of Northern Italian decent.   At this time in 1983 Nonna was 82 years old.



She had been in exceptional good health, not an ache or pain to speak about.   
Then in a matter
of only a few weeks, she was not herself.   The clinical diagnosis was dementia.    Her mind was slipping away.



Edna was only a few years away from retirement, but quitting her job early to
take care of her
Mother would have been a great hardship upon her life.   





In May of 1983 Mark and I had one child, Nicole, she was 15 months old.



I suggested to Mark that we move in with his Grandmother and Aunt.   
I was working a part time job
and my hours could be adjusted to be with Nonna as
not to leave her alone.    I realized the ramifications
of such a move, and was willing to do this to help out his family.   He at first was not.   I then convinced him that it was
in the best interest of his family.   





Sadly, within a matter of only a few weeks of our moving in with them, Nonna’s mind deteriorated so that not even a house full could not have cared for her, unless we
were trained nurses.   She would
sleep only in increments of a couple of hours.   
She attempted to leave the house and it was also
apparent she had no conception
of who we were.   Nonna was moved to a nursing home.   
Within
a matter of months, she passed on.





The point of relating this story to you is something that happened during the
short time we were there.





Auntie had come home from work, we had dinner and had settled Nonna into bed.



Nicole was happily playing with her toys on the floor of the living room.   I was in the kitchen



area cleaning up.   I had a view into the living room.   
Auntie Edna was sitting on the couch.  I glanced
towards her and could see her hands to her face in quiet tears.  Then the weight of the world  burst forth and it was full blown sobs.    Before I could advance towards Auntie, Nicole jumped up and RAN over to her Great Aunt.   
She laid her tiny head down in Auntie’s lap and was 
patting both of her legs.   
I was stunned.    Here was this child, barely in this world one year and



three months and she was compassionately comforting her 59 year old Great Auntie.





After Nonna’s passing and for many years to come, we fondly remembered that moment. 



At 15 months old, the only explanation is that Nicole arrived with this ability, as do we all.





Compassion is a necessary component within our humanity.    



I look forward to seeing how others ‘Spread the Love NOW!’ through their blog writings.   





Thank you, Wade, Kenton and Albert.   

Three cheers for thee Three Monks. !!!




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9 comments:

Debra Estep said...

I thought I would share the message I rec'vd
from Kenton regarding this project......
Spread the Love NOW! Group Writing Project
The Three Monks present ‘Spread the Love NOW!’
Christmas is a time for giving. It’s a time for love, and a time to spread some Christmas loving cheer. Read on to see how you can participate, have some fun and be in the run to win a prize value of ~US$50, along with some really beautiful stories shared.
All you have to do is to write something on compassion. It could be anything you want; for example, your definition of compassion. Still, in the spirit of Christmas, extra ‘points’ will be awarded if there is a personal touch – because we want to connect in compassion.
Some ideas could be what you have done or will do for someone. Or perhaps the best kindness anyone has ever shown you.
Prizes
With thanks to The Now Watch, we’re able to give some Christmas gifts to the most compelling stories.
We have a total of 6 watches to give away, so the top 6 stories will each be sent a watch, as our thanks for sharing.
Why the Now Watch?
This is one of the most important lessons one could ever learn, one that we are glad is spreading across the planet. The vast majority of our unhappiness is caused by dwelling in the past, or trying to anticipate the future.
Most of our mental suffering is caused by thoughts such as:
The past: “I wish this never happened / they never did that.”
The future: “I hope that doesn’t happen.” “When I get this, then I will be at peace.”
This only causes us more pain, because the only time is Now. When the future gets here, it will be Now. The past only exists as memory. Being in the Now – that is the path towards the end of suffering.
This watch is a tool towards being in the Now – every time you check the time, you’ll realize that the present moment is all we have. And our painful mental habits begin to unravel.
The Rules of the Game
This is a joint effort by the Three Monks – Wade of The Middle Way, Kenton of kentonwhitman.com, and Albert of Urban Monk.Net.
The watches are kindly provided by the coolest timepiece company ever – The Now Watch.
To participate –
1) Write a post as described above. You’re encouraged, although not required, to link to all three of the judges.
2) Contact any one of us, either by emailing, or leaving a comment in one of the judge’s posts.
3) You’re encouraged also to spread the word, tag your friends, and ask them to participate.
4) On 5 January 2008, the three judges will look at all the entries, pick the winners, and publish a list, so we can all share the links and traffic.
5) The results will be posted on 10 January 2008 on all three judge’s blogs. Winners will be contacted for mailing address details so we can send the watches to you!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
To my dear readers.... JUMP ON join us and Spread the LOVE NOW !!!
~Love~
Deb

Debra Estep said...

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807-1882)
Christmas Bells
I HEARD the bells on Christmas Day
Their old, familiar carols play,
And wild and sweet
The words repeat
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!
And thought how, as the day had come,
The belfries of all Christendom
Had rolled along
The unbroken song
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!
Till ringing, singing on its way,
The world revolved from night to day,
A voice, a chime,
A chant sublime
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!
Then from each black, accursed mouth
The cannon thundered in the South,
And with the sound
The carols drowned
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!
It was as if an earthquake rent
The hearth-stones of a continent,
And made forlorn
The households born
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!
And in despair I bowed my head;
"There is no peace on earth," I said;
"For hate is strong,
And mocks the song
Of peace on earth, good-will to men!"
Then pealed the bells more loud and deep:
"God is not dead, nor doth He sleep;
The Wrong shall fail,
The Right prevail,
With peace on earth, good-will to men."

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker said...

Deb, I was just thinking about you being one of the most compassionate people that I know right now in the way that you reach out with love to so many people that you don't even know. Then I opened my email and found this story from your blog. I know where your daughter Nicole gets her ability to be compassionate from. She sees it in her mother. Thanks for sharing such a beautiful memory.

Albert | UrbanMonk.Net said...

Deb, you rule so much! And the picture with our three names at the bottom, I don't know, it just put a huge smile on my face!

Debra Estep said...

Awwwwww thank you Patricia.
Auntie Edna passed away in June of 2004. Even though she was my ex's aunt, she always will remain MINE too.
Hey Albert, thanks for dropping in and reading.
Ya know... I went to hunt for a picture of bells
because I had intended in some way to put your 3 names directly on the bells. I don't know Wade's blog YET, but am a reader of Kenton's and your blog.
Your blogs ~~ring out~~ awareness to the world !
Then I came upon the place card bell that was even more perfect.
It's a symbol of the place you hold in my heart.

Wade M | TheMiddleWay said...

Hi Deb,
Thanks for your wonderful entry.
Peace,
Wade

Wade M | TheMiddleWay said...

I've also got to say that the bells were a very touching way to finish, unexpected, couldn't help but say wow outloud; thank you. Hope to be talking more soon.
Peace,
Wade

Debra Estep said...

Hello Wade,
Awwwwww thanks for dropping by my post and site.
I am so excited to be a part of this and the biggest
reason is to come upon new blogs of folks who are
participating.
A link today on your site Wade was from Samir Bharadwaj over at
What Relates Swan Lake and Musical Fountains to Compassion ?
http://tinyurl.com/yurpgw
Samir writes about a New Years event that he attended in Dubai. To save any readers a wonder...
Where is Dubai, I've dropped in a link.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dubai
I actually knew where it was because my Air Force Daughter in Law had been stationed at an Air Base
over there.
Do skip over and check out Samir's post. :)

Wade M | TheMiddleWay said...

Hi Deb,
I did get over and checked out Samir's post, thanks, however, for the heads.
Peace,
Wade